Should I relocate for love?
The short answer
Move if the relationship is serious, the destination has a viable version of your career, and you both agree what happens if it ends. Don't move for a maybe.
Signals to weigh
- 0112+ months in and the relationship is exclusive and forward-moving.
- 02You've spent 2+ consecutive weeks together in daily life, not vacation.
- 03The new city has jobs in your field, not just a bedroom.
- 04You agree on the exit plan if the relationship ends within a year.
How to decide
- Step 1Visit for a month before committing. Work remote from there, live like a resident.
- Step 2Line up a job or freelance pipeline before the move.
- Step 3Split the moving costs and lease terms fairly on paper.
- Step 4Set a 6-month check-in. Revisit honestly.
Framework used
WRAP Framework →Full walkthrough of the framework, with examples and pitfalls.
Consider these alternatives
- ·Long-distance for another 6-12 months while you both test the destination.
- ·Meet in a third city that works for both of your careers.
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